Should Lesbians, Gays, BISEXUALS, and Transgenders be allowed to be parents?

  First and foremost let me just say I think that there are straight people that shouldn't be parents! I don't think being a parent has anything to do with the gender of the person you decide to love. The fact is being a parent takes a certain type of person and unfortunately there are people in this world that do not deserve to be parents, but that is not based on their sexual preference its based on their actions toward their kids. When you raise your children you are the one that makes the best decisions for your children, and in the end it doesn't matter the gender of your spouse.

With the upcoming decision on Gay Marriage being held by the Supreme Court, the question on whether Gays and Lebians should have children is also coming into play. It makes sense to say if we allow them to marry we allow them to have kids. But why wouldn't you allow Gays and Lesbians to have children? I mean like I said before there are a whole lot of straight people that shouldn't even have kids. But I think the real question is, What do the kids have to say about it?

Children sometimes don't understand the way the world works until late in their childhood, at least for the lucky few. It might just be that these children of Gay and Lesbian couples don't even understand the difference because for them love is love.

For this little girl all she sees is love and sunshine in her family. 

The meaning behind her picture is no different than the meaning behind my own child's family portrait, it is all Love. 

There are some children however that realize the difference in their families and are willing to fight for those differences. "Nine-year-old Josef Miles and his mother, Patty Akrouche, were walking around the Washburn University campus in Topeka, Kan., on Saturday when they saw a group of Westboro Baptist Church protesters armed with signs. The Church is infamous for using pickets with phrases like 'God hates fags' and 'Thank God for dead soldiers.' After reading some of the signs on display, Akrouche said that Miles asked her if he could create one of his own. Using a small sketch pad, he wrote out his message in pencil and held it out while he stood across from the picket line.'GOD HATES NO ONE,' he wrote."9yr old takes a stand 

Josef must have known deep in his heart that it doesn't matter to God what gender his parents are, if they show him all the love he needs and give him all he needs then that is all that matters. 

Josef Miles 

So what are they saying about Gay marriage and Gay parents, well one Justice made himself pretty clear on where he stands:

 " JUSTICE SCALIA: Mr. Cooper, let me — let me give you one — one concrete thing. I don’t know why you don’t mention some concrete things. If you redefine marriage to include same-sex couples, you must — you must permit adoption by same-sex couples, and there’s – there’s considerable disagreement among — among sociologists as to what the consequences of raising a child in a — in a single-sex family, whether that is harmful to the child or not. Some States do not — do not permit adoption by same-sex couples for that reason." Justice Scalia 

So what are the professionals saying about Gay and Lesbian parents? Let's take a look. 

According to The American Academy of Pediatrics which released its newest study on March 21, 2013 there are 5 scientific reason why Gays and Lesbians make good parents. 

1. They choose to have kids. Many of us know that when in your in a straight relationship accidents happen and many times this leads to abortions, adoption situations, abuse, or for the lucky few it becomes a happy family. Gays and Lesbians don't have that opportunity they have to discuss it with one another and jump through hoops to find either someone to carry the child for them, someone who is willing to allow them to adopt their child, or find a sperm donor. They usually end up spending thousands of dollars to have a child when many straight couples can have them for free and some of them take that for granted. 

2. They nurture the neediest. Gay parents are a huge resource for kids awaiting adoption, particularly the neediest cases. In October 2011, the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute found that 60 percent of gay and lesbian adoptive parents adopt across races, which is important because minority kids have a tougher time getting out of the foster system. And 25 percent of kids placed with adoptive gay and lesbian parents were older than 3 — also a tough age range to adopt. More than half of the kids had special needs. 5 reasons

3. They foster tolerance. This one for me is a big one. I mean look at the discrimination that Gays and Lesbians face on a daily basis, I believe that they will teach their children to not look at others they way they have been looked at. I think they will probably be some of the most open-minded kids out there. 

4. Their kids do fine in school. Kids of gay parents appear to do well academically, too. A review of all of the existing research on same-sex parents and their children, published in 2010, found that their grade point averages (GPA) were on par with kids of two-parent heterosexual homes. In a study comparing teens living in both types of households, boys of lesbian parents had an average GPA of 2.9, compared with 2.65 for boys of heterosexual parents. Teen girls raised by two moms had an average GPA of 2.8, compared with 2.9 for girls raised by a mother and father. (Because more lesbians than gay men have children, studies on the former are more common.)  5 reasons

5. They raise confident children. An upbringing in a same-sex household can give kids a boost of confidence. In a 2010 study published in the journal Pediatrics, researchers examined the kids of planned lesbian families, in which a single lesbian mother or two lesbian partners decided to have kids, in contrast to bringing them to the relationship from previous heterosexual partnerships. Like other studies of lesbian moms, this one found no significant differences from straight parents in kids' development and social behavior.5 Reasons

I put this scientific information up because its out there but I think its really sad that we need scientist to come together and figure out if Gays and Lesbians will be good parents. I feel that all we need to do is listen to the children that these laws actually affect, the ones that are in these families, they are the ones that know... 

                                    

As a mother I know that the gender of my spouse doesn't matter, that doesn't help them when they have booboos, or when they are sick, or when they need a hug. All that matters is that you love them and hold them safe where no one can harm them until its their turn to go out in this world. 

 My aunt Lisa, her Fiance Amber, and their two beautiful and happy girls. 

Family comes in many different forms, but Love, Love is universal 

There is no difference in the love of the families above to the love in my family. 

So what do you think?